This blog is for pilot wives, girlfriends and really anyone who is in a relationship with a pilot. It is good to discuss the joys and challenges of the pilot wife lifestyle. It includes a lot of mine and Mr. Rights views which we hope will provide advice and support take what you like or need leave the rest. My hope is to meet other pilot wives and foster those friendships through sharing, and commenting because we can learn so much from eachother.
Hi Ags, beautiful brainchild of yours. Can't wait to see how it grows! Enjoying a week off with my honey after the craziness of moving and him working for 3 weeks straight (I know that you know the feeling...)
Enjoy your time with your family. It is the way we roll from crazy busy when they are home to more time on hands when they are gone. Glad you like the site.
My #1 thing: communication!!!! Without that, there will be failure.
As for the kids, I am sort of taking the approach of "reality is the world in which you are born." I think our kids will always just assume daddy leaves for work, and that is the way it is.
Now, when it comes to the united front, that is hard! We actually just had an issue with that recently, since I was overriding my husband right in front of our son. We talked about it, and I am trying my hardest to make it better.
You are speaking my language. My husband is a commercial pilot and has been for the past 10years. The first 7 years of our marriage he flew for the Navy and did 3 deployments. So I get you when you say it is hard to find support & information that will help us pilot wives deal with just everyday stuff. I'm also working at writing things that will hopefully turn into a book. But right now I'm just collecting my thoughts on a blog.I've received a handful of responses that I've collected from other wives as well. Maybe between the two of us we can bring forth support, encouragement and a little faith added to the mix to living this crazy lifestyle that we live.
Thank you for your comments. Joanna I agree that it is so hard to have a united front and communication is huge. Tiffany I think that it is one of the most difficult things to do and so many marriages fall apart and I think that part of the problem is lack of positive support. When you look on line you find a lot of negativity and it is hard to come by folks who say positive things about their pilot husbands. I wish you luck with your book, it will be an amazing resource for so many when you put it together.
My husband is looking at becoming a helicopter pilot. I am wondering what I need to know at what life would be like for me and my kids. He is currently a police officer and is almost at his 20 year mark and wants to do his passion which he thinks this will be for him. I just want to know what the life is like and what I should know about and maybe let him know he should be expecting. Will I be able to work? I mostly stay home now and work part time. Will he barely make ends meat? How bad could it get financially, etc...? I would love to know what all you ladies have to stay and keep in this blog to let you know how the future pans out. THanks, Amy
Hi Amy It is a long road, but if it is something he loves it is well worth it. The begining in aviation is tough. If he works hard and puts all he has into it he will be working for food the first four to five years. The education itself is also expensive. It is not imposible, but to succeed it takes comitment and iron will. One a positive note the industry is getting safer every year, the equipment is getting better, standards higher. For the helicopter world jobs are 7 on 7 off or 14 on and 14 off. As he gains experience he will continue to recieve pay increases, and depending on the company he is with he may recieve bonuses as well. His success will depend on his and your families willingness to adapt to the lifestyle, such as moving dealing with him flying nights (which with being a police officer I am sure you are used to). Researching the employer is key, it is an unstable industry and it is easy to get a job and then get laid off or the company folds so research before applying is key. I stay at home and I konw many pilot wives who stay at home as well, I also know many pilot wives who work and that lifestyle works for them. This you will have to decide on your own based on your family needs. If you have more questions please feel free to ask, that is why we are here.I will pick my firends brains too about some additional infor I may have missed. Where is he thinking about going to school?
I I ran across your blog while doing some research and thought it was really neat. My husband a blackhawk pilot in the Army national guard and is currently deployed in Kosovo until July. While he is deployed we are thinking of what we want for our future and we have decided to either go Active Navy Or Air Force. I am wondering if you can give me any information at all. I have heard a few things like Navy tends to be strict and more traditional than the other branches, also that he could be on a ship for a long time and be required to leave more than other branches. Also that they Navy community is more tight knit and how wonderful the mentoring program is for the soldiers. Is any of this true? Also I would love to live by the coast, but not sure if that would be guaranteed. We also have a 1 1/2 year old daughter than I stay home with now while I am obtaining my graduate degree. Do you live on post or off base? Any info you can give me would be extremely helpful, Thanks again
Hi! I've been a pilot's wife over 8 years and we have two little girls. I work part time and I'm really struggling with how many sacrifices I have had to make because of my husband's job (my own career for instance). I feel like we have two completely separate lives and honestly, I'm lonely. I have always been very independent and I like having my own time but its tough doing everything so much of the time. I've been trying to find any books or resources regarding airline families but as you know, there's nothing. Feeling sad I guess that I don't know what to do to get my marriage and family back on the right path. Sigh. Any and all thoughts are appreciated! :)
Hi Ags, beautiful brainchild of yours. Can't wait to see how it grows! Enjoying a week off with my honey after the craziness of moving and him working for 3 weeks straight (I know that you know the feeling...)
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your time with your family. It is the way we roll from crazy busy when they are home to more time on hands when they are gone. Glad you like the site.
ReplyDeleteSo proud of you, my friend and neighbor. I think this is a wonderful idea. You ROCK!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Gina I am so excited about it, I hope that people find it useful.
ReplyDeleteA much needed support system for women (or men) who have a spouse or partner in the aviation business! Awesome, job, sister!
ReplyDeleteI'm SO glad you created this site. I need this :)
ReplyDeleteMy #1 thing: communication!!!! Without that, there will be failure.
ReplyDeleteAs for the kids, I am sort of taking the approach of "reality is the world in which you are born." I think our kids will always just assume daddy leaves for work, and that is the way it is.
Now, when it comes to the united front, that is hard! We actually just had an issue with that recently, since I was overriding my husband right in front of our son. We talked about it, and I am trying my hardest to make it better.
Katie - I am so glad that it is helpful. I will keep writing I hope that it keeps helping.Your site is pretty awesome as well.
ReplyDeleteYou are speaking my language. My husband is a commercial pilot and has been for the past 10years. The first 7 years of our marriage he flew for the Navy and did 3 deployments. So I get you when you say it is hard to find support & information that will help us pilot wives deal with just everyday stuff. I'm also working at writing things that will hopefully turn into a book. But right now I'm just collecting my thoughts on a blog.I've received a handful of responses that I've collected from other wives as well. Maybe between the two of us we can bring forth support, encouragement and a little faith added to the mix to living this crazy lifestyle that we live.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comments.
ReplyDeleteJoanna I agree that it is so hard to have a united front and communication is huge.
Tiffany I think that it is one of the most difficult things to do and so many marriages fall apart and I think that part of the problem is lack of positive support. When you look on line you find a lot of negativity and it is hard to come by folks who say positive things about their pilot husbands. I wish you luck with your book, it will be an amazing resource for so many when you put it together.
Hi Aggi! Nice site! Thanks for sharing!!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is looking at becoming a helicopter pilot. I am wondering what I need to know at what life would be like for me and my kids. He is currently a police officer and is almost at his 20 year mark and wants to do his passion which he thinks this will be for him. I just want to know what the life is like and what I should know about and maybe let him know he should be expecting. Will I be able to work? I mostly stay home now and work part time. Will he barely make ends meat? How bad could it get financially, etc...? I would love to know what all you ladies have to stay and keep in this blog to let you know how the future pans out. THanks, Amy
ReplyDeleteHi Amy
DeleteIt is a long road, but if it is something he loves it is well worth it. The begining in aviation is tough. If he works hard and puts all he has into it he will be working for food the first four to five years. The education itself is also expensive. It is not imposible, but to succeed it takes comitment and iron will. One a positive note the industry is getting safer every year, the equipment is getting better, standards higher. For the helicopter world jobs are 7 on 7 off or 14 on and 14 off. As he gains experience he will continue to recieve pay increases, and depending on the company he is with he may recieve bonuses as well. His success will depend on his and your families willingness to adapt to the lifestyle, such as moving dealing with him flying nights (which with being a police officer I am sure you are used to). Researching the employer is key, it is an unstable industry and it is easy to get a job and then get laid off or the company folds so research before applying is key. I stay at home and I konw many pilot wives who stay at home as well, I also know many pilot wives who work and that lifestyle works for them. This you will have to decide on your own based on your family needs. If you have more questions please feel free to ask, that is why we are here.I will pick my firends brains too about some additional infor I may have missed. Where is he thinking about going to school?
I I ran across your blog while doing some research and thought it was really neat. My husband a blackhawk pilot in the Army national guard and is currently deployed in Kosovo until July. While he is deployed we are thinking of what we want for our future and we have decided to either go Active Navy Or Air Force. I am wondering if you can give me any information at all. I have heard a few things like Navy tends to be strict and more traditional than the other branches, also that he could be on a ship for a long time and be required to leave more than other branches. Also that they Navy community is more tight knit and how wonderful the mentoring program is for the soldiers. Is any of this true? Also I would love to live by the coast, but not sure if that would be guaranteed. We also have a 1 1/2 year old daughter than I stay home with now while I am obtaining my graduate degree. Do you live on post or off base? Any info you can give me would be extremely helpful, Thanks again
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Am I the only one that realllly looks forward to his trips??????
ReplyDeleteHi! I've been a pilot's wife over 8 years and we have two little girls. I work part time and I'm really struggling with how many sacrifices I have had to make because of my husband's job (my own career for instance). I feel like we have two completely separate lives and honestly, I'm lonely. I have always been very independent and I like having my own time but its tough doing everything so much of the time. I've been trying to find any books or resources regarding airline families but as you know, there's nothing. Feeling sad I guess that I don't know what to do to get my marriage and family back on the right path. Sigh. Any and all thoughts are appreciated! :)
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